Love Letter

I'll love you til I don't. Promises don't make sense to me. Love lessons. Life Lessons. Biz Lessons.

JAN 11, 2024

It’s a song I wrote years ago to try to express my relationship parameters (to a man who was way too attached.)

I don’t believe in promises. It’s simply not logical. What if something unforeseen happens that makes it impossible to keep? What if you wake up one day and don’t feel the same way?

I just don’t see how promises make sense.

When it comes to any relationship… I want to be with you, hang out, laugh and get deep while I love and respect you and the feeling is mutual. But if you do something to change that or if I do something that changes that for you… then it probably should end. Don’t you think?

If I think back… it’s worked the same in romantic relationships or marriages I’ve had. Just because I made some naive “promise” - even with the placing of some metal on my skin… I was not sticking around (past a good “persevere-&-try-a-bunch-of-things-to-make-it-work” phase) if I lost respect or he was abusive!

And by the same token, I wouldn’t want someone to stick it out with me either. If he wakes up one day and doesn’t want me or is “just not that into me” anymore, then please say goodbye! I’m worth more than that, and so is he!

And what if we just change? (Oh God, I hope we do!) Because we can change together… But we might also change so that our lives become too separate, too distant, we’ve strayed too far from each other’s path. That might mean another end too (but not necessarily always.)

If I could promise one thing, it’s that I will change.

And I want change! I want to grow… learn… evolve… or if I’m talking to my teenage son, ‘level up’! And I want that for you too!

So here I am, in a relationship with you, beloved blog reader. Let’s see how we fit together! Let’s see if we vibe! I will be fully present when I’m with you. I will stroke your keys and admire your glow.

I will invite my friends around for a chat and a laugh… and we’ll all change and learn and grow and level up together.

And we will love you til we don’t.

[OK, my friends. Shhhh… now for our secret pact… 🤫]

For right now, it's just a crush on blogging. So as long as we’re all having fun, learning, vibing, feeling held and valued… we’ll stay. But if you’re getting the sense that this relationship is not working for you, or us, then you’ve gotta get in touch!… We’ll have a good *D&M about it. And decide what to do next.

*D&M = what we used to call, as teenagers, a seriously “deep and meaningful” conversation - did you have them too?

Categories: : Biz musings, Spiritual Musings